As a man I know this fear well. If you've read any of my other articles here in this ezine you'll know that I suffered from paralyzing shyness most of my life and of how I managed to release this destructive problem from my mind and body permanently. Well the fear of approaching attractive women was a significant component of this shyness. Each and every time I would notice an attractive woman who I wanted to get to know I would become very anxious at the thought of approaching her. My mind would become clouded with numerous negative thoughts such as: 1. Don't even bother; you're wasting your time. 2. She doesn't want to talk to you. 3. What if she rejects you; you'll look foolish even stupid. 4. Don't make yourself vulnerable to being embarrassed or humiliated in public. 5. You're too emotionally vulnerable to risk being rejected. 6. You just don't deserve having any kind of contact with such women. 7. You're too ugly and unattractive. 8. And so on. These, needless to say, caused me to abort the idea of saying anything and often left me feeling like a complete failure. This only re-inforced the problem as it drove my confidence level to lower depths. Almost every man I know, if they are honest with themselves has had such negative thoughts and/or feelings at some time. Most of them focus on the fear of being rejected and thus feeling deeply humiliated and wounded as a result. At a deeper level it is my experience that such feelings of vulnerability are rooted in early childhood experiences of one's mother not having been fully available and or present for him. Now please don't take me wrong here. I'm not here to blame mothers. They have a hard enough job as it is. It's more that the nature of being a parent is such that they cannot, and I repeat cannot, be fully available for their children emotionally. Additionally, any parent who compulsively tries to do this is, is in my view modeling a false perception of a reality for that child and may in some ways be doing them a disservice at some level. So what is to be done about this situation? Well as I said the problem arises as a result of the inherent course of one's early life experience. Until now it was felt that the imprints of that life experience, which many refer to as mental, emotional and body memories, were hard wired into each individual once they occurred. Yes, some could be changed or altered somewhat through various forms of therapy (i.e. hypnosis, psychotherapy, EMDR, EFT, TFT etc.) however the thought that they could be completely and permanently released forever, leaving the individual with the experience that "they never happened" was unheard of. Well not only is that possible now, with a new and powerful modality never before seen on this planet called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) (MRP), it is essential for the problems that they cause e.g. the fear of approaching attractive women, to be addressed once and for all. So if you have such a problem, and if you are male believe me you do, then don't those attractive women deserve to get to know the attractive person that is you? If you would like to be free of such fears once and for all and begin your journey to a fulfilling life of joy, love and happiness kindly visit the web link below and arrange an introductory consultation at no risk to you. |
